Love, Life, Laughter

Tuesday, July 04, 2006

What Is Love?

THE TRUE MEANING OF LOVE
(From an anonymous texter)

If it's because of her eyes or her lips or her great body...
It's not love... it's LUST.

If it's because of her intelligence or insight about life...
It's not love... it's ADMIRATION.

If it's because she cries everytime you try to leave...
It's not love... it's PITY.

If it's because she makes you forget to study and sleep...
It's not love... it's INFATUATION.

Love is when you do not know why you seem to be attracted to a person.

Love has its reason.

And that reason is UNKNOWN.

Home

A PLACE TO CALL HOME
Once upon a time... there was a man. There was a man who didn't know where he came from. This man had longed to find his birthplace ever since he was a small child. His birthplace. A place he remembered only in his dreams.He wanted to know more about himself, maybe. About his parents, the house where he was born.

One day, the man left the home of his adoptive father and went on a quest to find the answer. His only clue was the blue light he saw in his dreams. He thought it might be a memory of his birthplace. An ocean, maybe...?

He never found it.

How could he? His only clue was a coloured light. So he went back to the home of his adoptive father. What do you think his father did when he came home? The father raised his fist and beat the son he had worked so hard to raise. The father smiled, after beating up his son! Can you believe that? He just gave his son a beating. But this is what the man thought when he saw his father smile...

This is my home.

This is the place I call home. The man is still looking for his birthplace. But he already has a home.

-- This is an excerpt from conversation between Zidane and Garnet at
Black Mage's Village based on the PS1 Game, FINAL FANTASY IX.

Deaf Pinoy BIG BROTHER (Day 1)

One Sunday morning of the holiday vacation after I woke up, I did the same old routine playing a PS1 game Final Fantasy IX just because I want to complete it before hectic classes begins on January.

But I decided to stop for a while because I remembered that tomorrow morning I will be going to Tagaytay with some of my friends and spend a holiday vacation for 3 days and 2 nights. I quickly got a piece of paper and pencil then I listed all things I need to bring and asked myself: "How many t-shirts do I need? How many shorts? socks? pants? underwear? What other things did I forgot? Oh, toothpaste, toothbrush, shampoo, bath soap, lotion, deodorant, cotton buds, facial cleanser, etc. etc." After I got packed, guess what I did next? Back to PS1 game and prepared myself to kick the big boss' butt!

At that night, I received a text message from a friend who asked me if I'm going to sleep at his workplace. I replied, "Oh sorry! I think I can't make it, kinda addicted to PS1 game. But I will be early tomorrow." Guess what... I spent whole night until the crack of dawn playing video game... Heheheheheh... (Believe me... I didn't sleep!). Then, it was 3am and my sister got up and prepared herself for her departure... I was informed that she'll be going to spend 5 days nonsense seminar at Baguio City. Harharhar!

Before I left to Tagaytay, I completed the disc 2 of FFIX. Once I got finished, I moved quickly and prepared myself for my departure. I ate my pitiful morning breakfast (it's better not to tell what I ate!) because mom was still sleep and I felt too lazy to cook on my own. After breakfast, I brushed my teeth (kumukutikutitap!), took bath (sang the same old lullaby... heheheheh) , got dressed and twice checked my things. Then, finally I'm off to meet my friends.

Upon my arrival at our meeting place somewhere in QC... I looked upon my watch and said to myself... "Oh, Migs! It seems that you're overexicted... It's only 6am! Departure will be 8am ah... what the hell you're thinking!" I pushed the doorbell to draw attention of whoever staying at the house but no one answered... tut tut... I guess they're sleeping yet. I went to a nearby store and spent an hour standing there waiting for no one! When it was 7:30am, I tried to draw some attention again and luckily the door was opened to me with unwelcome arms! I was asked why I'm too early, I replied, "I haven't slept yet. Got addicted to PS1 game eh."

But guess what, thought we're leaving on the said time but I spent two and half hours waiting for others to arrive and most important of all... the transportation van. I checked my watch and complained... "What time are we going to leave? 8:00 am, right? It's 8:30am now... wattamess!" We tried to text my the one who was responsible for our transportation van... but he didn't replied! "What the hell he think he's doing!" I asked myself... We tried to rang his mobile phone but still no electronic OWL arrived... I said to myself "Oh hell! Maybe he's making a sort of dramatic entrance... Hmmmm...."

So, I decided to ask my other pals who felt hungry like me to Jollibee for breakfast.... We waited there until the van arrived but guess... what time was it? 10am!!! Grrrrrrr..... Here is the evidence that, "Filipino time is always late on time." Before we left, my friend explained the reason for the delay... the reserved transportation van was broken and he looked for another one on that early morning... Oh nevermind!!!

Hooray! We left finally, but I was slept during the travel. I woke up and found that we stopped at one gasoline station to take a break... driving is tiresome that's why the driver needs rest. After a short break, we're off again to our destination... Tagaytay City... site of the world's smallest volcano. We stop to an unknown place... there we bought our lunch. My stomach was aching in hunger so I bought much food as I can or my comrades' flesh will be my lunch! (Grooowwwllll!) One of my friend approached me and told that we will eat lunch together once we arrived to our destination... Oh no... I'm really hungry, but its better not to argue!

Finally... we arrived at Kuya's home... and the Pinoy Deaf Big Brother began. Upon arrival, we ate our lunch together... I eat faster than anyone else because I'm really hungry and my stomach is lurching, after lunch we took some rest. Then chat about different things, explored the house... hmmm... Japanese Zen garden in style... the house owner which was "KUYA" himself explained the house rules to all housemates.

After his lecture, we played some group games but I have the feeling that my head was aching a bit due to lack of sleep. In the afternoon before the sun sets, I joined my other three friends to buy our foods that will help us survive for three days and two nights... (of torture.... Heheheheeh!) Before we left, I went upstairs to prepare myself... I noticed my jacket but I decided not to bring it because I don't feel freezing. We arrived at the grocery but guess what... once I got out of the car the freeze suddenly froze me from head to feet! "Oh I should have brought my jacket... what a silly gay I am!" My comrades were wondering... I had enough fat stored in my body but why the cold tortured me??? I asked my friend to let me stay in the car... I'm really freezing... and my head started its painful aching... so, I shut myself inside the car until the shopping completed. Pity... tsk tsk....

After the shopping, we went to McDonalds and met our other friends there who already ate their dinner and we four were the only left. I ordered my own dinner and grateful because the cold didn't penetrated the place where I was. Once the dinner was over we went back to Kuya's house but before we park our car... My friend told me to blindfold my other friend...

Ohhh... I almost forgot... it was his birthday and we have a surprise party for him... I removed my black headband and blindfolded my friend who finally agreed after some bewitching spells I cast over him (Imperio!!! The Imperius Curse). I supported him in his every steps then upon our entrance in the house... I removed the headband, the lights turned on and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! We enjoyed the party, eat, chat, drink and did some craziness the life could bring.... I felt really weak because my head was really killing me, as it was going to split into two so I decided to take rest and collapsed to sofa then fell asleep.


I woke up in the dead of the night someone was over me... a ghost or a devil? or a poltergeist? I can't see him clearly because my head was still aching. But guess what... he's smiling with two big horns, sharp teeth, long tail, ferocious stare, cunning smile and dirty mind! Then, Goliath joined the scene he threw himself over me... He's too heavy... two devils over me... I fight back for my breath then I quickly went upstairs and collapsed to sleeping foam... zzzzzzzzz....

That's how the day 1 began and ended.

The Journey of the Deaf Reader

This is the story of how my passion for reading began. In this story, I recalled the memories that started it all... the beginning of my journey.

I'm the first child born in the family. When I was a young, my mom was my first teacher. Upon her arrival at home after her work, she will sit beside me with a little blackboard and chalk teaching me ABCs and the name of the things beginning with each letter like A for an apple, and B for basket. But, I never opened any single book nor have a single glance on it.

It was a beautiful Sunday morning, I went to mom's workplace with her which was also my habit every weekend. However, that day was different and special one. Upon our arrival, she brought me to supervisor's corner who was one of her friends. Before she left, she gave me a dictionary and opened it, then she browsed the pages looking for something. I watched her curiously then she stopped and I looked to her smiling face. I smiled in return and she showed me the page where she stopped from the dictionary itself. It was an artist image concept of the solar system. Then, she told me that name of the nine planets. I listened eagerly and repeated the words she recited. When my mom left, my eyes lingered on the picture staring curiously. I couldn't take my eyes off on it. It was a very special day not only because it was the day I encountered and opened a book but also the day that the universe was introduced to me.

My first encounter with the book brought me to much curiosity and made me restless. As I went there again, I asked my mom to bring the dictionary she once gave to me and open again the page where I saw the picture of the solar system, but sadly, she said to me that the dictionary was no longer there anymore. It made me upset but the words she told me when she described the picture were spoken by my mind: "This is our solar system, composed of the sun and nine planets. The nine planets are: Mercury, Venus, Earth, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune and Pluto. Earth is our home planet, Saturn is the planet that have three beautiful rings and the smallest planet is Pluto." The said encounter with the picture was one of the main reason why Astronomy is my most favorite field of science.

I started schooling at my early age of four and I observed that my mom’s patience never withered. After her work and during the holidays she continues to teach me and reviewed to me all things that I learned from school. Sometimes we're studying during the crack of dawn because my mom believed that an individual learn faster in the dawn of the day. But there were times that I’m not in mood to study but mom usually forced me. She beat me sometimes for not following her, so I was forced to study to avoid the pain.

She gave me rewards for every great things I did during our studies. I just remember one thing, I asked her to buy me an egg pie and a chocolate drink in the bakery when we're done. She promised so, I paid attention eagerly and did well. The result I was blessed with an egg pie and a chocolate drink. Funny isn’t it?

Consequently, she taught me to how to use a dictionary because she gave me one as a gift. According to her, that through dictionary I can find the meaning of unfamiliar terms to me and improve my vocabulary of both English and Tagalog languages.

Every night before I go to sleep, she told me bedtime stories. I can’t remember those stories anymore but the only one thing I remember was the story taken from the Bible. It was the story of “The Tower of Babel.” Me and my sister sat with her listening to every words she told. As I continue schooling, mom always reminded me to keep good grades or else I will stop. It was a powerful blow to myself, so I study harder and kept my promise.


Mom’s patience and hard work were not wasted because I got medals from school. Mom was very proud standing with me on the stage with medals. She also continued to give gifts for every excellent performance at school. It motivated to work harder but I admit that I did it for the purpose of rewards.
As I continue to progress, I set many dreams for my future. One and the very first was to became an astronomer someday. I wished also to be a chemist because I usually saw it on a television an individual mixing chemicals for something. I also wished to learn how to build robots. I dreamed too much of science but I didn’t expect that something will happen that will change everything.

I was eight years old back then, an unexpected illness attacked me that changed everything forever. I got mumps and for within a week, I didn't went outside to play with my friends. One day, I drank the half bottle of my vitamin without my parents knowing. At that night, when I lay down at bed I felt something heavy in my ears. When I woke up in the morning, everything around me was silent, I can't even hear the voices of my mom and dad. Yes, I became Deaf. When I lost my hearing, I didn’t know what I’m going to do. We tried different doctors just to restore my hearing. Many tried but sadly, none of them succeed. I remained silent and I felt that my ambitions in life will never come true anymore. Tears rolled down on my cheeks, I asked myself... "Why me?" I felt that all my dreams were shattered. “What will I become in the future?” I thought. “Where's my life heading now” I asked myself. And finally, I said, "Is there still a hope?"

“Yes! There is still a hope.” Mom told me. “All you have to do is to prove your best even you can't hear. There were people who stand up despite of their disabilities.” It was unbelievable for the first time I heard that advice. I tried to do my best even with my unbelieving self and my parents did their best to support me and helped me to stand up. I was moved to a SPED school and bid goodbye to hearing world. I didn’t mean to separate from the hearing world completely but I felt that it is time for me to learn and grow up to the new world I currently belong.

One night, my dad came home and gave me comics for children. I read it eagerly then dad said that even I’m Deaf I should still learn to read and write because both will be beneficial in my future. It was very painful to hear the word “Deaf” because I’m blaming it the reason for the lost of the dreams I have set. Dad continued to buy me comics and I started to love it. The result, a new dream came upon me. I wished that someday I have to write my own story. Later, I invented incomplete stories. But frankly, every stories wasn’t original at all because I just changed the plot of the story I’ve read.

As I grew-up, my passion for reading increases. During free times in my secondary years, I usually locked myself inside the library and buried myself in every book I wanted to read. It seems that I’m trying to read the whole library before graduation. But reading helped me to increase my general knowledge. Sometimes there were interesting topics in some of my classes and I consult the library for additional information.

My dearest friends also helped me to improve my reading skills. Through their patience in training me, I improved my reading skills and comprehension. They gave me reading materials where I studied carefully at home with a dictionary beside me, carefully browsing the correct meaning of the unfamiliar words. I will never forget all their support and patience in helping me to improve.

I entered college, my love for reading increases but I admit that I turned a bit arrogant. In some of classes, I’ve thrown a weird expression of boredom if the lesson was already familiar to me. “Pardon professor! I know it already,” was the usual expression of myself. I paid a little attention if that case happened. Sometimes my professors were awed if I said that I knew the subject matter already. It seems they think that I’d swallowed the whole book.

In my sophomore years, I was introduced to the the depths of poetry. This led me to love the beauty of poetry, expressing one’s thoughts and feelings through rhythmic use of words in verses. Among of the poem I loved are: To an Athlete Dying Young by A.E. Housman, The Passionate Shepherd to his Love by Christopher Marlowe, The Nymph’s Reply to the Shepherd by Sir Walter Raleigh, and Shakespeare’s Sonnets my most favorite. Later on, I started to read novels and the very first of them was of my most favorite: Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone. I'm one of Harry's big fan. My classmates, friends and professors were all aware of it very well. They knew that I’m the only one who didn’t stop telling stories and imitating Harry. I also read short stories and plays. My most favorite play was Sophocles’ “Oedipus Rex.” The story was indeed great and heart touching. I couldn’t help myself to cry after learning Oedipus fate.

Aside from my reading skills, I also gained multimedia skills offered by my college institution. I also dreamed that someday I can be a film or stage play director, because I love to watch movies. Being a movie fanatic also helps me to enhance directing skills like choosing best camera angle, plotting, sequencing, storyboarding, and dialogue. In school, I usually the director if there were role playing activities. I have wished also that in the future I will have to create my own film. I already wrote my first ever script which was titled “Patalim (Dagger).” As of today, I'm planning to make it a film with the help of my Deaf friends and I hope that we will succeed. I also became a fan of animation because I also studied. As I watch various animations, I carefully study every movements of the animated show. It improved my directing ideas in giving best shot and movement that will make the film or animated film more alive and attractive.

Because of my multimedia skills, my final thesis was an interactive CD titled “2030: When Science Break the Limits” completed with the help of my two groupmates. I’m really thankful because it was passed. Someday we will have to remake it to add more interactivity and improve the plot of the story.

Now, in the present I’m currently teaching Deaf college students of College of Saint Benilde in English which are usually reading classes. I eagerly share them my experiences on how I improved myself and encouraged them to strive the best to improve their reading skills through patience and hard work. I’m aware that teaching reading in Deaf individuals is a difficult task but in my every class I don’t usually expect that my every student will perform best in my class. All I hope that is even one of them will love reading too and will set example to other Deaf individuals after me.

And my journey continues to go on and on.

How do we meet?

This Is How We Meet
(Excerpt from Arnold Aare's AFTER EDEN)

This is how it starts, This is how we meet
Did I see you? Got to try
Was it you in the corner of my eye,
Wondering why I'm crazy 'bout you

How you'll make me fly
When you walk into my view
Oh give me the chance,
For just one glance

So step into the light
And let me dream, Let me dream,
Let me dream,
Of you tonight

Save me from this plight
Oh make me dream
Of you tonight

And as I dream
The lands of lore
It's you I'll be longing for

We'll make love as we set sail
Let's live out a fairy tale
No matter where,
I'll meet you there

Let it show, Let me know
Let me dream, Make it so
Now it starts can't hold back
Just a glimpse is all I asks

Amidst the noise,
Amidst the crowd
It's your name,
I'll cry out loud

This is how we met, This is how it starts
So let me see you, be in sight
And let me dream
Of you tonight